Friends of mine with blogs for their little ones (Christie, Kat, Ashley, and Meg) all post blogs almost daily. I'm not as good...so you'll have to survive with weekly updates. SORRY :)
Anyhow, Anthony is developing quite the little temper. All the baby books and websites I read say that you can't really begin to shape a child's behavior until their around 2 years old...and I think that's a TOTAL CROCK! I'm just wondering what I need to do to make him STOP with his tantrums. I like to think that Joe and I are really good parents and are making the right parenting decisions. I always use manners with Anthony. I always say "say please" and "say thank you" when I'm handing him anything. We let him know that he can't have everything he wants. We defintiely SPOIL him just like any parent would of their first child, but we draw the line. But if we take something away from him, he pitches an absolute fit. I mean, like he kicks his legs, turns bright red, and often times tries to bite me! Ahhh do I have a demon child? It's obvious that he knows what he's doing and knows that this behavior is unacceptable because he only does it to me, and sometimes Joe, but never in front of anyone else or in public. Anyone have any insight for me.
The ONE thing that we do that we know we're doing wrong is putting him to sleep every night. Anthony has a very strict bedtime routine that we've been upholding since he was born so he would know that bedtime means bedtime. We bathe him around 7:30, then we put him in a clean diaper and PJs after putting his bedtime lotion on. We brush his teeth-now that he has them. Usually stories are reserved for naptime....I like to sing to him at night. So I'll make his bedtime bottle, feed him. And curl him up in a blanket and sing to him and walk/rock him to sleep. I KNOW THIS IS BAD. I just can't break the habit! We've tried leaving him in his crib to fall asleep a few times, and he just screams and screams. I know eventually he will fall asleep, but the longest I waited was around 35 minutes and I couldn't do it anymore. I just can't listen to my baby cry. HELP!
So okay this post makes Anthony sound like a little terror. He's not at all, just those couple of things. He also does the funniest stuff imaginable. Like he gives kisses, but not a real kiss, just his version of a kiss. He'll open his mouth as wide as he can and just maul me repeatedly. It's so super cute, and I always say "aww, thank you!" and he'll do it again! He also has this hearty CHUCKLE of a laugh that he's got. He laughs all the time. And when Spongebob or the Backyardigans comes on TV he'll drop whatever he's doing and dance (just bobs his head up and down).
We've recently been giving him some real people food. He's still on formula and baby food, but lately he's been especially interested in what everyone else is eating. He loves mashed up baked beans, soft pretzles, chicken, pasta, and apparently Joe has given him steak. He's really good about just taking one piece at a time and not picking up another piece until he's done with his first. He's of course been well-versed in ICE CREAM. We've been giving him little tastes of ice cream since he was 3 months old. And spare me the lectures on cow's milk under age one. I'm talking LITTLE tastes here, nothing that will affect him. He doesn't like jell-o or cottage cheese. But other than that he'll eat just about everything.
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Fits - when he throws a fit....walk away. Don't look him in the eye. Act like you don't even knows he's doing it. He will quickly learn that fits get no attention. When he gets over his fit, tell him that you will listen to him now b/c h is acting like a big boy. It works. Avery still throws fits, but they aren't bad. They are still trying to understand everything and how this world works. I will tell you that at about 1 year old, most baby's personalities change. You might even think he's possessed at times. LOL!!! But, you'll get through it.
For sleeping. We did our own version of cry it out when Avery was about 10 months old. Before that, she was nursed or rocked to sleep. Do some research on CIO. SOme people think it's absolutely cruel. I didn't like the harshness of most CIO, but we were able to et Avery sleeping on her own within a week. She still had some setbacks once in a while, but now she ASKS to go to bed! :o)
Good luck!
didnt read this whole one either, but looked at the pole you've posted and wanted to vote, but needed to know what i was talking about, hehe... well.. of course you're not a terrible mom, honey! we've all got our lil things we let them get away with & probably shouildnt... i'm pretty strict on nap & bedtimes too... when i was nursing, i'd nurse her to sleep & if i laid her down & she cried, sometimes i'd stay & try again, other times, i'd let her cry it out... is its 35 mins & he's still crying, yea, not working... but maybe be consistent with putting him down, then let him cry maybe 15 mins, but Every single night... he'll catch on that you're not coming back (at least for 15 mins, then maybe he'll realize that this is normal, and i better get used to it)... diella's bedtime now is between 9:30-10... and if she's not out by 10 then she does in her crib whether she likes it or not... usually she's so ready to sleep by then, but if not, she'll cry for MAYBE a minute or two... she knows now that its time for bed & i may as well just sleep... so somethings working :) give it a try.. let me know :) Love you! Give ur lil boy a smooch from me!
~Kat
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